the repair conversation

Questions to reconnect after a hard time

Not for mid-argument. For after, when things have settled and there's finally space to actually talk. Go slowly, take turns, and remember: this is not an accusation, it's information.

for couples 5 questions deep
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  1. 1

    What did you need from me during that time that you didn't quite get?

    This is not an accusation. It's information.

  2. 2

    Is there something you said, or didn't say, that you'd do differently?

    From both sides. Take turns.

  3. 3

    What helped, even a little?

    Acknowledge the small things that worked.

  4. 4

    What do you think we learned about each other?

    Hard times show us things easy times don't.

  5. 5

    What do you need from me now, going forward?

    Be specific. General answers are harder to act on.

how to use these

Find a moment without screens or hurry. Take turns, one question at a time, and let the silences happen, they're usually where the good part is. If a question doesn't fit tonight, skip it. There's no score and no finish line.

Prefer something a little more guided? The interactive flip cards show one question at a time, with a gentle nudge on the back of each card. The focus room is a quiet, distraction-free version for going deep.

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